I feel like keeping an eye on the prize is starting to become difficult. I feel like I was more aspiring and self assured in middle school than I am now, when it comes to achieving my dreams. I feel like I’m starting to slowly compromise things that matter for things that shouldn’t matter.
Well that’s a shame. I need to get over it. All women do.
Research is starting to show that even relatively savvy young women are losing confidence in managing their money and losing sight of their future. In the workplace, women are apparently less intent upon negotiating their salaries, refrain from saving and investing and are becoming increasingly dependent on men or social security benefits. However, in this society and economy, relying on these things is almost foolish- what happened to being the more intelligent of two? The U.S Department of Labor has revealed that women get fewer retirement benefits because they are more likely to work part time or interrupt their careers for family. And a woman having more longevity does not help here either.
The thing is, I want to succeed after college. I want to have a family and raise children and still maintain a steady, prospering career. Many women have wanted this but ultimately failed to find the proper balance without making some sort of sacrifice. Even after 4 decades into the feminist movement, the social structure of child rearing is still basically the same. And now, in many cases, an American woman might be stripped of her best financial asset: a husband. Of course, our system has a way of counteracting this burden by providing policy for paid parental leave, subsidized day care and now, national health insurance. I guess the point is: women choose to take this on, and it’s applaudable, but why?
Why work without benefits? Why spend more on that pair of heels to make a statement? Why have an extra child to break the bank? I wonder these things because I want to know; I want to be prepared.
Seemingly, men see money as a marker of their significance, whereas women see it as a mean to security. Men want money as an end in itself; women want money for things they really want. Women don’t receive adequate recognition for making money and properly managing it. In order for us to become rich, it seems like we have to engage in stereotypical male behaviors: staying in the workforce, staying on a budget, and staying in the stock market. Eeep, scary! For women, however, saving and investing has to compete with money’s usefulness in buying stuff that produces other things…like female recognition. We are wonderfully praised for visible beauty, mothering, and community service. So is it worth it?
I guess wanting to be noticed and appreciated isn’t a bad thing but is this reason to compromise? Although many leading, executive women make attaining that balance in society seem possible, sacrifices are still made. And unless you were once married to Britney Spears, a man cannot sit around hoping for their darling wife to buy him a new sound system. Although there are countless exceptions, society has not placed the burden of attaining power and monetary wealth upon a woman and I guess that’s the trade off to our continuous struggle in overcoming this systemization.
40 years and counting, gals.